Wednesday, February 6, 2008

CEOmum

I decided to name this blog CEOmum after I had a discussion with my teenage son. He informed me that I am his CEO in charge of his overall life with responsibility for the executive matters and all things financial and legislative. While I agreed to an extent, I also uttered the usual platitudes pointing out for example the need for him to become more organized and to start taking responsibility for his decisions and ultimately his life. Then I got to thinking about the role we play as mothers.

Even in this so called liberal age we moms are often bearing the load of multiple jobs. We do our nine to five job, come home make dinner, check that home work is done, do laundry, listen to complaints or maybe just concerns about school, friends, extra curricular activities, SAT's, college plans etc. This often leaves us exhausted and I ask myself do we always have to be supermom? If we want our kids to become responsible adults, isn't it up to us to demonstrate to them that we can also manage our time responsibly? Five ways to address this are set out below:

  1. Insist that the dads chip in. We are often to blame for allowing them to come home from their nine to five jobs, eat dinner, watch tv and generally relax while we keep working until bedtime.
  2. For those of us who are single parents, we may need to exercise our talents a bit more. We may need to get our kids actively involved in taking on more chores. Cleaning their rooms, doing laundry, making light meals are not too difficult for teens and doing these on specified days every week can help them to learn how easy being organized can make their lives.
  3. Have a family dinner at least three times per week where you arrange beforehand that the family will discuss issues that concern them or events that have an impact on each person's life.
  4. Invest in a planner for your child. Some huge desk planners are available at book stores. I have found the huge desk pads to be more effective that the book/diary types. Encourage them to write down important events including the chores referred to above and homework deadlines and let them be responsible for meeting deadlines.
  5. When your child asks for help, do not help by doing, help by asking. Ask questions that will help him or her to come up with ideas to resolve the problem.
Maybe if we slowed down and remembered that life is not about being engaged in nonstop competition, we would not be so tired all the time. If we helped our children to discover how they can become more organized and responsible then we would discover something beneficial too and moms, dads and kids would be rewarded with a less stressful life. Let us try to be the CEOmum who led by example not just the CEOmum who did it all.

1 comment:

peanuts said...

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